Confidence

Just made tea and was pouring using strainer in the cups to serve. Was looking at the utensil, strainer, cup and the flow of tea all at once. Even then the flow was still just incorrect. Tea was going little over the cup edges, outside the cup just making one big mess.

Mom was watching me doing this. After few seconds she said, “what are you doing? Just pour it!”

I looked at her puzzled. ‘What do you mean? That’s what I am TRYING to do.’

She repeated, “Na. Just pour it!”.

Yup. I then JUST poured as she said. Was that perfect? May be not. But far better result! I was not looking at every little thing and trying to get it right. I was pouring without hesitation in one steady flow. I was ‘Just doing it’.

That extremely tiny difference in behaviour is the one they call confidence! Where ‘Try’ has no place. It’s not about ‘Trying’, it’s just about ‘Doing’! 

Is that why the tag line goes ‘Just do it’?

I know what you are saying, ‘but well not everything is as simple a task as pouring tea! Right?’. 

True! But to get to a different result, the super tiny shift in behaviour remains just the same!

Being a Duck

Seen a duck peacefully gliding across a  lake? He looks so calm, composed and effortless. Just few small ripples around the water while he glides.

But, if you ever try to see below the water, will be surprised by the frantic leg paddling.

That's really the essence!

Strength

There are times when you do something, just because there is simply no other option.
And then there are times when you Decide to do something, despite availability of other options.

Strangely, you still get the strength in either scenario. You pull up your socks because you know there is no leaning on anyone. In other case you ply on knowing that someone can come forward to help, but you really want to do your 100% before you would need it, just cause you Chose things to be this way.

I guess the key to the strength is still your Choice. Choice to see a situation positively, as a way to get best out of you.

The Game Changer

You often hear the term 'Game Changer' liberally used  in talks, in news. I never really had a handle over it...Until Now :) Some recent incidents gave a fuller meaning to it for me. 

I wanted to carry a tab from my Mom's place. Her reaction was -I have my WhatsApp on it. As long as it keeps working on some other device, you can take it. 😮

No issue to carry the instrument, WhatsApp is the necessity. 

Ok....

Dad would check WhatsApp daily. 😮

He had never ever bothered with even a mobile phone so far. 

There was a time when I would call saying I have sent a mail, did you check? That will be the time when Mom would login to check... And now I find them at times online on WhatsApp, Replying instantaneously!

The epitome of all this was Grandma asking, if WhatsApp can be installed on her old phone.      

See for us, for our generation email to yahoo messenger, to social platform of Facebook and alike, to need for a smaller more interactive communication group of WhatsApp felt like a very natural progression. 

For our parents generation, they were never too keen to adapt to all this new technology. They adapted few thing like emails grudgingly as necessity. 

But the total switch from this Nay to Yay is done by WhatsApp. Thats a switch from grudging unwilling acceptance to eagerness and willingness. Requirements are simple. One good phone with number and internet. Thats it. But even more than ease of use, unique and quick way of bringing closer who matter the most! Children, grandchildren, siblings - their families. 

Attitude turn around of an entire generation,oh man thats massive! Now, that is really the 'Game Changer' of parents generation. It does not stop there. Once the gates open videos on YouTube, browsing, searching starts becoming common thing. 

Love to see them embracing the changes. Wish I would remain as open minded as they are. 

I know, this post has kind of become like an WhatsApp advt. Though honestly don't think it requires any more marketing. :)

Closure

When you think of it, it's so super important to get the closure on things...

If that does not happen, it keeps on lingering in your mind, you keep thinking what if, keep thinking if it was a right decision or wrong?
Why did it happen? If you had done something differently, could it have changed outcome?
If it would have happened, how different and better life would have been.

It's kind of funny!
Sometimes, it's in your hand to get the things to closure, sometimes you have already moved on or even forgotten. Yet, the closure, the reason about why a certain thing happened the way it did, helps! Helps immensely!

Closure is not just a decision though! Its acceptance of it and understanding of it.
Or a realization that sure things didn't happen the way you wanted, but that was for the better, unlike the way you thought when they happened.

Ok, this is getting a way too abstract... Needs example.

Ummmm.... Ummmmmmm..
Went for a job interview. Your Dream job! Interview was super good! You are sure you are gonna get it.  You so much want this job! It's just right work, good money, seems like a good crowd. You are looking forward to it. Clown called Mind has started to think of breaking this news to your present colleagues and boss. And then...You just get a curt mail, we decided to not proceed with your application, thank you for applying. Apply in future blah blah blah….

Why why why? They should tell me why!
There are times when you resign to this as a fact. There are times when you call and try to figure out. In general, it takes some time for you to accept it. But, it still lingers at the back of your mind.

You cleared a job interview in another company. It’s decent. It has work that you like to do, money is decent and crowd is good. Basically everything that you were looking for. But, somehow in one corner of your heart, you are still not happy. Not fully happy. In frustrated moments, you still feel, I should have got my dream job! I would have done wonders then...It's just going on for the sake of it right now.

Interestingly you cannot be 100% sure about how things would have panned out, if you would have actually got the dream job. Maybe you would have flourished or maybe you would have got overwhelmed. You are just in love with the idea of you achieving what you thought you would. And you keep thinking what if in your mind, now and then, sometime in between...

Then one day, you are walking down the road. You meet an old friend, you get excited and start catching up on everything you are up with. The friend incidentally works in same company where you had interview. He tells lots of projects closing suddenly after upper management changed hands. He says, he himself is thinking of looking out.
And Then... AHA!

That's it! That was the reason!
Peace of mind! It's almost like seeing a bright sunlight after the dark clouds have passed over. Breeze.
And that my dear friend is a closure!

The new job you decided to take, does not feel so ordinary any more. You can still do wonders! Right?

Taking an example of professional life is probably a bit silly honestly.
You feel the actual heat in the personal life...

But, well you got the gist...